Look for inspiration in paintings, rugs, fabrics or even your closet.  If you can wear it, you can live with it. Wood is not neutral, it has a color; it is often orange, red, or yellowish.  Try to blend with your wood because it is part of the whole.  If you are not matching an existing piece then select your paint last and pull from chosen fabrics, bedding, etc.  There are hundreds of paint color and when paint is chosen first you may find it difficult to match ii with current styles. Also, know that colors have psychological powers on us and choose colors that make you comfortable.